IEP Meetings 101: How to Prepare, What to Ask, and How to Be Heard
Navigating the world of special education can be overwhelming, especially when it comes to IEP (Individualized Education Program) meetings. These meetings are essential for making sure your child receives the services and support they need to thrive in school—but they can also feel intimidating. At One and All, we believe families deserve to be confident, informed advocates. Here’s a simple guide to help you feel prepared, empowered, and ready to speak up.
What is an IEP Meeting?
An IEP meeting is a formal gathering where a team—including you, your child’s teachers, school staff, and specialists—comes together to review your child’s progress and create or update their IEP. This plan outlines the special education services, accommodations, and goals that support your child’s learning.
Before the Meeting: Get Prepared
Review current documents. Read through your child’s most recent IEP, evaluations, report cards, and teacher notes. Make a list of questions or concerns.
Talk to your child. Ask how school is going—what’s working, what’s not—and write down their input.
Know your rights. Familiarize yourself with the basics of the Individuals with Disabilities Education Act (IDEA), which protects your child’s right to a free and appropriate education.
During the Meeting: Speak Up and Stay Involved
You are an equal member of the team. Your insights are just as important as the school’s. Don’t hesitate to ask questions or request clarification.
Bring notes and support. It’s okay to bring a friend, advocate, or even a professional (like a conflict coach or educational consultant) to help you feel confident.
Focus on goals and progress. Ask: Are the goals still right for my child? Are we seeing real progress? What else can we try if something isn’t working?
After the Meeting: Follow Up
Request a copy. Make sure you get the finalized IEP for your records.
Stay in touch. Regular communication with your child’s teachers and support staff helps you stay in the loop and ensures the IEP is being followed.
Speak up if something feels off. If you believe your child’s needs aren’t being met, don’t wait—reach out, ask questions, and consider requesting another meeting or support.
You Don’t Have to Do It Alone
If you ever feel overwhelmed or unsure, know that support is available. One and All Education offers coaching and advocacy to help families feel confident in IEP meetings and beyond. We’re here to make sure every student gets the education they deserve—with compassion, equity, and collaboration at the heart of it all.
